Jealousy is GREAT!! It motivates us to change and it helps us to build our world up using the best parts of other peoples' worlds. However, jealousy goes very very wrong when we do not use it in this way. When lazy people get jealous, they waste this motivating force and allow it to distract [...]
Perhaps the most devastating and liberating thing I learned in my first 5 years of being in my 20s is that monogamy is not for everyone, and more specifically not for me. I grew up on fairytales. And until the age of 23, I was absolutely positive that finding that one person would be the [...]
With summer in full swing all of the greedy marketers come 'round to collect their new wave of victims.Creating products that are dangerous, ineffective, and highly misleading. These companies use their Facebook banners and Instagram endorsements to play on the desperation and the laziness of people trying hopelessly to achieve extremely high (and often impossible) [...]
Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in worrying about how perfect our partner should be that we forget to level up ourselves. I spent years shooting for the stars in my dating life. Always wanting my ideal guy and never asking if I was my ideal girl... Was I where I wanted to be [...]
With each year the meaning of life for me evolves just a little. When I was younger it was all about being loved and being famous and being wanted. When I was a teen it was being a star student and a star athlete (neither of which were within my grasp I'm afraid). And in [...]
One of the great blessings and curses of my life is that I have NEVER fit in. From the first day of pre-school I was bullied relentlessly. Pushed, teased, tricked, used, and on one especially terrible occasion, hit in the face with a kickball. The damage done was deep and cost me years of happiness. [...]
I grew up in a small town and my teachers thought I was "retarded" because I would sit and stare into space for long periods of time and unless I was reading Harry Potter, my attention span was zero. Turns out I have something called A.D.D. or Attention Deficit Disorder. Which basically means my brain [...]
Why are posts about super intelligent, successful women bugging me today? Aren't they showing that women don't have to sell our bodies to be celebrated? Why is this driving me crazy?? Because the enemy is not sexually objectifying women. It is perfectionising them. Because women are not all saints, martyrs, geniuses, billionaires, models, and yogis. [...]
How to use the science of popularity to be popular... a true nerd's guide to leveling up socially. Getting ready for nerd prom got me thinking about popularity and how painful it was to not be popular growing up. Then I realized that there is a science to popularity that would have really came in [...]
This little girl was at the ballet I attended. My ultimate goal in life is to be like her. Her outfit is not what did it. Yes it was outstanding and clever and interesting but it was a mere reflection of her presence. Her presence communicated happiness, pride, and exploration of the self. With or [...]
