Perhaps the most devastating and liberating thing I learned in my first 5 years of being in my 20s is that monogamy is not for everyone, and more specifically not for me.

I grew up on fairytales.

And until the age of 23, I was absolutely positive that finding that one person would be the end of my searching and that I would have no need to even consider anyone else ever again.

And then I found him.

And then I realized that while I loved him very very much, I had this part of me that wanted to love lots of people for lots of different reasons.

Luckily for me, he was in the same boat. Together we explored the ins and outs of romantic relationships with each other as well as with other people.

What we have found is that monogamy is significantly more difficult than people seem to think it is.

Monogamy, according to research, is not our natural state. Which doesn’t mean that it is bad or unhealthy; moreso that it takes more effort to be monogamous than other forms of relationships.

The problem is that people think that to say a vow, perhaps have  a big party and buy each other rings is enough to seal the deal.

They don’t even consider couples counseling, or books until it is too late.

My hope in filming this was to shed some light on how difficult monogamy is and how to do it right. As well as what to do if you, like me, find that monogamy is not your first choice.

Enjoy!